The Daily Express reports today (12th August 2013) that Simon Cowell flew to New York to meet Andrew Silverman, his pregnant girlfriend’s jilted husband. The pair reportedly used to be friends and Cowell allegedly wants to keep things amicable.
It can often be difficult to keep relationships civil, let alone amicable, when there is a Divorce, but by doing so you may well find that you save yourself an awful lot of emotional upset. Most family solicitors, and specifically those who are members of Resolution, are committed to try and guide people going through a divorce in a constructive and non-confrontational manner. This is primarily because negotiated settlements that are agreed between the Separating couple tend to work much better than those forced upon parties by a judge in court. We also know that when the legal wranglings are over, you and your ex will often still have to communicate over issues such as the children.
One process that can often help is Mediation. This involves you and your ex sitting round a table to discuss, with the help of an impartial mediator, how best to divide your assets and/or care for the Children. Not only does this mean that you keep control of what happens to your own finances and your own children, you get to decide the outcome – as opposed to a judge. Your solicitor can refer you to mediation, or you can refer yourself.
In my experience as both a family solicitor and mediator, as well as having the advantage of keeping relations civil and improving communication between separating couples, mediation is invariably cheaper and quicker than court proceedings.
So if you are going through a split, or know someone who is, you might want to take a leaf out of Simon Cowell’s book – something I for one never thought I’d hear myself say!
By Family Law Solicitor Sarah Thompson