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Love and Marriage......

Some new research into relationships was revealed this week and as a divorce lawyer, I’d have to say that despite the well-fancy-that reaction in the media, I wasn’t at all surprised by the information it contained.

The Centers for Disease Control in America conducted a study of 22,000 people, and found that couples who are engaged are just as likely to stay married for 15 years as those who only share a home after their marriage. 

I don’t think this is unusual at all (even though earlier studies have shown that those couples who live together before marriage have higher chance of divorce after they wed) and here’s why: the findings include the words “couples who are engaged”. This means these couples have already made a commitment to each other; they know they want to spend the rest of their lives together, they’re not thinking “well, if I get bored with him I can always move out, no big deal.”

The study also found that nearly half of all first marriages break up after 20 years, which although sad might also be viewed as a positive as 20 years is a pretty long time, and that women and men with university degrees were more likely to delay marriage, but also more likely to get married eventually.

There will always be studies into marriage, as relationships are a topic most people never tire of discussing, determined to discover the secret of those elusive, long lasting, happy and fulfilling ones. But there are no set rules and what works for one couple may not necessarily work for another. This is why I always advise couples considering marriage to draw up a pre-nuptial agreement, then a post-nuptial agreement and if they aren’t getting married but are moving in together, to get a living together agreement drawn up.  I don’t believe in leaving anything to chance. Hot romance is wonderful, but so is a cool head.By Amanda McAlister