Family
Exes or allies, is friendship after divorce obtainable?
While staying friends with an ex may seem unlikely, new research suggests this is far from impossible. In fact, a recent survey reported one in four people stayed friends with their ex following divorce.
The findings, from law firm Slater and Gordon, offer a fresh perspective on divorce, showing that while divorce is life-changing it does not always mean the end of relationship, but a new type of connection.
With 69% of respondents admitting they worried about the impact of their divorce on their children, achieving an amicable relationship post-separation could play a crucial role in reducing disruption and supporting effective co-parenting.
The research also sheds light on the most common reasons for divorce, many of which point to the potential for a more amicable split. For 40% of respondents, they reported that that their marriage came to an end due to simply falling out of love whilst 37% cited a lack of communication. These findings suggest that many separations stem from emotional distance rather than conflict, making it easier for former partners to remain on good terms.
Encouragingly, the data also highlights positive outcomes post-divorce. In fact, 48% said their mental health improved after the divorce and 42% of respondents reported they had more time for themselves. Whilst people fear divorce can harm their mental health, the research uncovered the opposite – where four in five respondents found the experience emotionally freeing once complete.
Jenniffer Brunt, Head of Family Law, explains: “It’s easy to assume that divorce leads to conflict, and once proceedings end, the inability to get along. However, this isn’t always the case. Some relationships end due to emotional distance rather than conflict, meaning that there is strong potential to remain friends' post-divorce.
“As long as both parties are committed to moving forward positively, especially for the sake of their children, this can make the process far smoother and less stressful for all involved.
“Our role as family lawyers is to help you navigate what your future can look like, and explore options for you. Earlier advice can further protect your wellbeing and ensure an amicable solution is met. Whilst it’s a difficult decision to come towards, we can help you every step of the way.”
