18 December 2014
Christmas Break is Make or Break for Millions of Brits
Millions of couples are hoping that the magic of Christmas will put the sparkle back in their relationship, new research by Slater and Gordon Lawyers has revealed.
For a quarter of Brits this festive break could be ‘make or break’ for their marriage as they try to settle disagreements and put marital problems behind them.
Expensive gifts, family days out, one on one time without the kids and cosy nights in with a bottle of wine are all ways in which couples will be trying to reignite the flame.
However, one in twenty of couples hoping that a happy Christmas will create a happy marriage have admitted that their relationship may have reached the point of no return already.
The study, which polled 1,230 married Brits, was commissioned by Divorce Solicitors at Slater and Gordon Lawyers who are anticipating that late December and early January will be their busiest period of the year with families deciding to separate after falling out over the festive period.
The ‘Divorce-Day’ trend of deciding to split up with a partner after a difficult Christmas break has become more and more significant over the last few years and the law firm will have more Divorce Lawyers than usual ready to take calls from people who are thinking about getting a divorce.
Slater and Gordon Divorce Lawyer Lorraine Harvey said, “Any tensions or issues in a relationship are likely to come to the forefront in the lead up to Christmas day. There is a lot of pressure on families over the festive season to ensure that the day is perfect so if there are weaknesses in a relationship they can become apparent very quickly, despite the best intentions of everyone involved.
“We are often contacted by people as the New Year approaches who decide that the tension and the arguing has just gone on for too long. The New Year is a natural time for people to assess their lives and relationships can come under more scrutiny. Especially if one has been putting in a lot more effort that the other to fix the problems in the relationship.”
Three quarters of Brits said they would be making an extra effort not to argue with their partner over Christmas but 23% say they think they will still end up arguing more than usual.
More than half of couples said that they anticipated that arguments from earlier in the year would create tension and get repeated over Christmas while 36% said they thought financial stresses, the pressure to make it perfect and ‘cabin fever’ would be reasons behind the arguments.
The research also showed that being forced to spend time in the company of family members they don’t get along with, arguments over what to watch on TV and who does the cooking are the most common causes of arguments.
Nearly half said their children regularly witness fights between them and their partner while 22% said they had argued in front of their parents and in-laws.
A quarter said they had discussed ending their relationship and almost a third said they were dreading Christmas.
14% of respondents said they were planning on taking on extra work and going in to the office just to get away from their family over the break while one in twenty said they would drink to make the festive season more bearable.
Lorraine Harvey added, “Contacting a Divorce Solicitor can often be the first step towards broaching difficult discussions and taking difficult decisions. It’s sensible to get realistic legal advice as early as possible so that couples are in the best possible position to make any separation as amicable as they can. Especially if there are children involved.
“If the Christmas period has been filled with arguments and tension then it’s important to put children first before making any rash decisions and to also make the effort to make the process as amicable as possible.”
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