Marriage doubts are more common than you think. In fact, half of divorced Brits considered pulling out of their wedding at the last minute, according to our new research.
We found that four in 10 divorcees had doubts before walking down the aisle and that the younger the couple were when they got married the more likely they were to have felt unsure.
With such a high percentage of people feeling uncertain before marriage you would expect that a similar percentage of people would have thought about divorce before getting hitched - but you would be wrong.
The northern cities of Sheffield and Liverpool had a higher percentage of divorcees who had seriously considered pulling out of their wedding at the last minute than all the other major UK cities.
Only nine per cent of the divorcees we surveyed had thought about divorce before walking down the aisle and only 16 per cent of those who had marriage doubts actually spoke to their partner about them.
The later you leave it to have a conversation about your concerns the harder it gets. If you can talk to your partner about your worries it can help, especially if you are able to discuss the worst case scenario.
Often when a marriage ends, spouses are uncertain about what will happen to their assets and do not know how to resolve their living arrangements because they had never talked through worst case scenarios together and are left unable to talk to each other anymore.
Sadly only four per cent of couples talk to each other about what would happen if their marriage didn’t work out – turning what is already such an emotional time into one filled with uncertainty as well.
Even less consider getting a prenuptial agreement – only three per cent. Prenuptial agreements provide a way of ensuring that, in the event of a marriage breakdown, arrangements are resolved as quickly and amicably as possible.
Prenuptial agreements can be seen as unromantic, but the advantages are it allows each spouse to know in the event of a divorce what they each will receive. By disclosing the assets and income you each have, and drawing up a fair agreement with all circumstances considered, a prenuptial agreement can be seen as a positive start to an open, honest and fair marriage.
For an initial consultation about a prenuptial agreement call the family solicitors at Slater and Gordon Lawyers on freephone 0800 915 9055 or contact us online and we will call you.
Amy Harris is a family law solicitor at Slater and Gordon Lawyers.