23 August 2016
‘Make or Break’ Holidays
Adultery is one of the top reasons for divorce. We have seen a rise in the number of clients coming to us citing their partner cheating on them whilst on holiday.
To find out just how common adultery on holiday is and why people cheat while they are away we have commissioned a study with over 2,000 married and divorced Brits. We are also examining the legalities around adultery and divorce.
Booking time away with your partner in order to make a last ditch attempt to rescue the relationship has been labelled a ‘make or break’ holiday.
It is perhaps more common than you would think, with nearly 40 per cent of Brits admitting they’ve gone on holiday in an attempt to breathe new life into their marriage. But what is the most likely outcome of such a high-pressured holiday: make or break?
Six in 10 couples found their break didn’t save their relationship and almost one in ten said that it prompted their divorce. The sad truth is that ‘make or break’ holidays, for the most part, do not work.
Spending so much time alone together on holiday can have the opposite impact you might have planned. Especially if you’re not used to spending long concentrated periods of time together it can be a shock to the system rather than relaxing.
For 40 per cent of Brits ‘make or break’ holidays put more strain on their relationship, 15 per cent stopped talking to their partner over the course of the holiday and the same number admitted that the time spent together made them realise they no longer loved each other.
Two per cent of Brits have waited to announce their intention to divorce until they have got their family holiday out of the way. Perhaps this, combined with failed ‘make or break’ holidays and adultery on vacation, is why September often proves a busy month for divorce lawyers with an increase in the number of divorces initiated.
Going on a holiday to save a marriage has worked for 36 per cent of Brits and is the third most popular thing to do in order to try and save a marriage. However, I would recommend either marriage counselling or mediation for couples looking to rescue their relationship.
If you do decide that there is nothing more you can do for your marriage and wish to begin the divorce process our team of divorce solicitors at Slater and Gordon Lawyers will work with you to resolve your divorce with compassion and efficiency. You can contact us at any time on freephone 0800 916 9055 or contact us online.
Kaleel Anwar is a family and divorce solicitor at Slater and Gordon Lawyers in London.