There can be some situations in a relationship when one person is not entirely satisfied with their other half and seeks to change or mould them into someone else. They can become under the illusion that, by getting married, their partner will change for the better when this may not always be the case.
Instead of rushing into marriage for this reason, you should address whatever the issue is with your partner and see if you can both come to some sort of compromise to make your relationship work better and become stronger as a result.
If neither of you can come to a compromise between you, then one option could be to look into relationship counselling.
We often hear in the media about celebrity marriages that have lasted less than a year; in some cases they’ve lasted for just days or weeks.
An example of a failed celebrity marriage where the couple may have married under the illusion that the other would change after the wedding is the case of Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony. They were married for 7 years and had twins together but the alleged reasoning for their divorce was because of Marc’s controlling temper, strict rules and he was allegedly not happy with the clothes in Jennifer’s wardrobe.
These alleged factors could have been present before their wedding day and, if so, why did Jennifer walk down the aisle? On the other hand, it could have been the case that Marc’s behaviour only altered unfavourably once they were married.
There was also the marriage of Heidi Klum and Seal from 2005 to 2012. It ended because of Seal’s extreme personality and his temper. In cases like this it may be that you can’t imagine your partner ever behaving in such a way and your judgment is clouded by the illusion of a ‘happy ever after’.
If you don’t like certain aspects of your partner, the chances are that those things won’t change just because they have a ring on their finger.
It is important to note that if you did get married and discover that your partner isn’t going to change to your specifications, you can’t file for divorce until you have been married for 12 months in the UK.
For more information, please read Half of Divorced Brits had doubts Before they Married.
If you would like more information on separation, divorce, cohabitation, or pre and post marital agreements, call our Family and Divorce Lawyers on freephone 0800 916 9055 or contact us online and we’ll be happy to help.